Take Time For Yourself As A Mom Without Feeling Guilty

As a mom, it can be tough to take time for yourself. You always feel like you’re behind and there’s never enough time in the day as it is. But taking some time for yourself is crucial for your own happiness  and well-being. Here are 10 helpful ways to take time for yourself as a mom without feeling guilty.

When I had my kids, I remember feeling overwhelmed. I was so used to being independent and taking care of myself that it was hard to handle all the new emotions and responsibilities that came with motherhood. On top of that, I felt guilty any time I wanted to take a break or do something for myself.

Mothers time and time again continue to put themselves last and their needs on the back burner. We take care of our families, our homes, our jobs, and everything else in between but when do we ever take care of ourselves? The answer is usually never.
It is important to take time for yourself because it allows you to recharge and come back even more refreshed and ready to take on motherhood. It also helps improve your mood and outlook on life.

Think about it this way, if you’re constantly feeling run down, stressed, and unhappy, that’s going to show in the way you take care of your family and the way you interact with your kids. But if you’re taking care of yourself and making sure to take some time for you, you’re going to be a happier, more present mom that your kids will love being around.

Realize You’re Worthy of It

Ask for Help

Wake Up Earlier Than Everyone Else

Take Time After Your Kids Are in Bed

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Happy Halloween making the holiday fun for everyone

Halloween is a fun night of costumes and candy for kids of all ages. But for those on the autism spectrum, scary sounds and decorations, tight or scratchy costumes and going out at night can be a lot to handle. Helping your child know what to expect from Halloween can help make it a fun time for everyone. although I don't celebrate halloween I want to make sure its safe for my son that is on the spectrum and my daughter.

How To help your littler one get Halloween off to a good start

help your kids learn what to expect around Halloween. You can add your own pictures and text to the story. It also includes a badge that autistic children can wear to let candy-givers know that they may communicate differently than other trick-or-treaters.  

Scary decorations, places and sounds

Halloween decorations can be scary. Ghosts, goblins, witches and black cats are everywhere! And they often come with bright, flashing lights and loud sounds. Even though they’re just for fun, they may be frightening. They also may be overwhelming to those with sensory issues.

Here’s what you can do to make Halloween sights and sounds less challenging for your child:

• Remind your child that the decorations and sounds are just pretend. They’re not real. They’re just a silly way for people to celebrate Halloween.
• Be aware of things like moving decorations, fog machines and flashing lights. These may make your child uncomfortable or lead to unsafe or impulsive behaviors.
• Take a sensory toy, headphones or ear plugs with you when you go somewhere that may have loud noises and sounds.
• If decorations, places and sounds make it hard for your child to enjoy Halloween activities, limit them. Skip them and find sensory-friendly activities instead. 

Costumes

Lots of kids wear costumes on Halloween. But they’re not required! If they don’t want to dress up, they can wear their regular clothes, or they can wear Halloween colors or a special shirt. The most important thing is that your child is happy and comfortable.

If your child wants to dress up:

• Be aware of sensory needs when helping your child choose a costume. Some materials may be itchy, smell weird or be uncomfortable for your child.
• Think about your child’s special interests when helping them choose a costume. For example, suggest that they dress up as their favorite superhero or other character.  Allow your child to dress up in their preferred costume without judgment, no matter what their age.
• Have your child put on the costume a few times before Halloween so they get used to how it feels.
• Think about getting the costume in a larger size so your child can wear their own clothes underneath.

Halloween can be hectic and unpredictable, so it's important to keep safety at the top of your mind. Even in familiar environments, new sights and sounds can increase the risk of wandering. Here are some ways you can help your child stay safe:

• Before you go trick or treating, take a picture of your child in their costume. This will ensure you have a recent picture in case they get lost.
• If your child may wander, have them wear light-up sneakers or glow-stick bracelets to make them easier to spot after dark.

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Autism moms are warriors

 It’s true. Raising a child with autism is overwhelming, to say the least, and it’s impossible to predict how each day will unfold. Even the slightest change in routine can set your little one off, leaving you feeling as though you’re constantly walking on egg shells in an attempt to keep the peace, which is exhausting.

Sometimes it feels as though no one in the entire world understands what you and your family experience on a daily basis, and other times you feel overwhelmed with gratitude for the people who go out of their way to help you.

We live in a day and age where we are expected to put everyone’s needs before our own, but what we fail to realize is that there is only so long we can live in a constant state of stress and fatigue before our bodies start to breakdown and even the smallest tasks start to feel overwhelming.

And when autism moms feel overwhelmed, the effects can be detrimental on the entire family. I’m serious! Your child’s success with various treatments and therapies is very much dependent on YOU

Of course, this all sounds great in theory, but finding ways to catch a break and recharge can feel downright impossible when you have so many demands on your time each day

One of the biggest challenges for autism moms is that, unless you’ve lived it, you cannot possibly understand what parents of autistic children experience on a daily basis

With that said, there are certain struggles most autism moms can relate to, including:

• Chronic exhaustion
• Improper diagnosis
• Long waitlists
• Lack of available resources
• Feeling socially isolated
• Feelings of guilt
• Not having enough time to focus on your child’s sibling’s 
• Financial concerns
• Worrying about the future

Before I jump into our best parenting tips for overwhelmed autism moms, I wanted to take a moment to remind you that it’s completely normal to feel overwhelmed. EVERY mom feels overwhelmed! And when you add in an autism diagnosis, and everything that brings along with it, it can feel all-consuming.

Stop feeling guilty.

Make self-care a priority.

Prioritize.

Organize help.

Get more sleep.

Connect with other parents and caregivers. 

Have a plan.

So, what’s it going to be?

Are you going to keep drowning, or are you going to make a commitment to make yourself a priority so you can be a better mom (and wife) to those that matter most?

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How to Handle After School Meltdowns

It’s back-to-school time! Many parents look forward to this all summer long, while others absolutely dread it. Changing your child’s schedule abruptly at the beginning of a new school year can cause lots of chaos and big emotions. Children on the autism spectrum typically feel this stress much more intensely, which can lead to after school meltdowns. If your kids struggles with this, check out these great ideas to reduce the overwhelm!

Why do after school meltdowns occur?

How is it even possible? Your child was a perfect angel all day; their teacher said so! Now they are sobbing uncontrollably and throwing things. What happened?! How can your kid have such a great day at school, then come home and completely fall apart?

So many moms struggle with this. They begin to wonder if they are a horrible parent, if the teacher is lying, or if their child despises them. The drastic change in behavior is difficult to wrap your mind around.

Believe it or not, after school meltdowns are pretty normal, especially for autistic children. Home is their safe place. They know they can get away with more at home. No, they aren’t necessarily trying to manipulate, mistreat, or use you – they just know they can be themselves without fear of unknown punishment. They don’t have to try to bottle up all of their overwhelming emotions, stress, and sensory overload any longer, so they explode.

How to reduce after school meltdowns

What are we supposed to do then? Just let them explode on us each day? While it is necessary for our kids to have a safe place, and to be able to release their bottled up emotions, we also need to teach them healthy ways to do it. That is obviously more of a challenge with special needs children. 

These sensory integration exercises require assistance, but have super results:

• Ball squashes (roll an exercise ball up and down your child, as they lay on the floor or a mat)
• Joint compressions
• Deep squeezes (slowly squeeze and release up and down your child’s arms and legs)
• Body rolls (wrap a blanket around your child and roll them from one side of the bed or floor to the other) 

Some of us may not have all the times on out hand but it worth trying 

Help them feel comfortable

Most parents have an internal instinct to ask their kids about their school day the second they get home. If your kiddo enjoys this, don’t bother stopping. But if you’re reading this, my guess is that your child doesn’t want to answer questions after school, because they are stressed.

Check their IEP

If you have tried these suggestions and still feel like your child is not improving, talk with the powers at be about changing their IEP. You can request sensory breaks, special exceptions, and therapeutic aids to be written into the IEP in order to help your child during the school day. 

What have you done to help your child regulate after school? What has worked? I always love to hear what works for others, as we all know that our children respond to different methods! Leave a comment below and let me know what you’ve tried!

IEP MEETING CHECKLIST FOR PARENTS

 Let me tell you am that one mother who doesn’t stop at nothing less when it come to my kid’s especially when it come to education. I have my annual IEP meeting today and it’s was very successful. Having a great teacher on your team is everything. It’s on point When you're looking for help for a student who struggles with a learning disability or mental health condition, you know it's important to have a plan in place to ensure your child's special needs are being met at school. That's where the Individual Education Program (IEP) meeting comes in handy

Review IDEA

Get familiar with the IEP meeting and process before you show up for a meeting. Every school provides a copy of your rights, so make sure you request and review a copy of the manual that was provided 

Compile Your List of Questions

It's easy to forget the questions you want to ask about your child's progress at school. Simplify what you need to remember by writing down all the questions you want to ask prior to attending the meeting.

Invite People and Professionals

You don't have to face a group of IEP review members, teachers or school counselors alone. If you have your own "support team," consider inviting them to the meeting.

This was one of the best thing I have ever done is reaching out for help and let me tell you professional help is the best 

At the end of the meeting they will review the evaluations with you 

Review and Complete Evaluations and Forms

Review and sign evaluations and forms that the IEP review team has prepared. These forms typically let the team know all of the meeting's participants, and give you insight into what will be covered, such as goals for the next school year 

At last help the teachers 👩‍🏫 so they can help you. So with that said 

Create a Student Profile

As a parent, you're an expert when it comes to your child. Help your IEP team in advance with a profile to help them gain more knowledge about your child outside of school. You can include your child's strengths, learning challenges or any special accommodations they may need as part of this profile.

 

IEP meetings can be informative, but you will benefit even more by being prepared in advance.

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Autism and Natural Disaster

 

Planning is an important part of any family affected by autism's daily routine, but is even more important when it comes to being prepared before, during and after any type of natural disaster. The following tips to assist families with creating emergency preparedness and response plans

Hurricanes and other natural disasters can be difficult for people with autism. Disney has put a lot of video and guide for families following a natural disaster

Basic Preparedness Tips:

• Know where to go. If you are ordered to evacuate, know the local hurricane evacuation route(s) to take and have a plan for where you can stay. Contact your local emergency management agency for more information.
• Put together a disaster supply kit, including a flashlight, batteries, cash, first aid supplies, and copies of your critical information if you need to evacuate.
• If you are not in an area that is advised to evacuate and you decide to stay in your home, plan for adequate supplies in case you lose power and water for several days and you are not able to leave due to flooding or blocked roads.
• Make a family emergency 🚨 communication plan.
• Many communities have text or email alerting systems for emergency notifications. To find out what alerts are available in your area, search the Internet with your town, city, or county name and the word "alerts".

Developing a Disaster Preparedness Plan:

It is a good idea for every family to have an emergency plan in place to know what you would do during a crisis or natural disaster

Evacuating your home - some important things to remember:

• Call the Red Cross prior to evacuating to ask which shelters accommodate people with special needs. Upon arrival to any shelter, let them know your child has autism and fully explain all of your child's specific needs. Ask if there is a secure room or office where your family could stay if your child wanders.
• Remember children and adults with autism may be drawn to water. If you are facing a natural disaster with waters rising this quickly you will want to take extra precautions if you are not fully out of harm's way.
• If your loved one with autism has a tendency to wander from safety, make sure you have a multifaceted safety plan in place. This was Brad very hurricane 🌀 and what 😮 bother him the most was all the banning on the shutters and he cannot look outside along with the internet out he feels like his entire world 🌍 crashed. 

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Autism Meltdown

Many autistic people have meltdowns. The public often finds it hard to tell autism meltdowns and temper tantrums apart, but they are very different things. If your family member or the person you support has meltdowns, find out how to anticipate them, identify their causes and minimise their frequency.
 

What is a meltdown? 

A meltdown is an intense response to an overwhelming situation. It happens when someone becomes completely overwhelmed by their current situation and temporarily loses control of their behaviour. This loss of control can be expressed verbally (eg shouting, screaming, crying), physically (eg kicking, lashing out, biting) or in both ways. 

What to do 

If someone is having a meltdown, or not responding to you, don’t judge them. It can make a world of difference to an autistic person and their carers. 

• Give them some time - it can take a while to recover from information or sensory overload. 
• Calmly ask them (or their parent or friend) if they’re OK, but bear in mind they’ll need more time to respond than you might expect. 
• Make space - try to create a quiet, safe space as best you can. Ask people to move along and not to stare, turn off loud music and turn down bright lights – whatever you can think of to reduce the information overload, try it.

Anticipating a meltdown 

Many autistic people will show signs of distress before having a meltdown, which is sometimes referred to as the “rumble stage”. They may start to exhibit signs of anxiety such as pacing, seek reassurance through repetitive questioning or physical signs such as rocking or becoming very still. 

Identifying the causes 

A meltdown is a reaction to an overwhelming experience. If your family member or the person you support has meltdowns, identify what is overwhelming for them. Complete a diary over a period of time. Record what happened before, during and after each meltdown. 

triggers 

Once you have a clearer idea what may be triggering meltdowns, think about ways you might minimise that trigger. Every autistic person is different, but sensory differences, changes in routine, anxiety, and communication difficulties are common triggers

Change in routine 

Consistent, predictable routines and structure are very important for autistic people and a change to routine can be very distressing. 

For example, having to go a different route to school due to roadworks could cause feelings of anxiety, that may trigger a meltdown.

Communication difficulties 

Autistic people can find it difficult to express their wants and needs, from a non-verbal child struggling to express their need for a drink to a teenager finding it hard to express their emotions. This can result in overwhelming feelings, such as anger and frustration, 

Support the person to find ways to understand and express their emotions appropriately before they get overwhelmed, and find ways to make your own communication more easily 

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Daily Routines are Important for Kids with Autism… AND all Kids!

 Routine for children of all developmental and learning abilities, both at home and in school.Maintaining strong social-emotional health we try to stick  to our daily routines with Brad.

• Eliminate power struggles
• Maintain consistency
• Foster cooperation
• Build the parent-child connection
• Help brad  take ownership of his own activities

How to Create Daily Routines for Kids with Autism: Stay C.A.L.M

Create

You can’t have a routine if you don’t create one. Start by identifying each task you’d like your child to complete, list them out, and organize a structured schedule. Designate when each should occur and for how long.

Alert

Creating an autism daily routine is one thing, sticking to it is another.  So stay on schedule with alerts, no matter how busy things get.

Like

A little positive reinforcement can go a long way. So be sure your child knows how much you like what they’re doing every step of the way.

Maintain

Maintaining the daily routine will likely be the hardest challenge. At least at first.But the longer you keep up a regular schedule, the easier it will be to maintain. So stay consistent.

Here is an example of my daily schedule for brad with autism who attend school.

• 6:00 AM Wake up
• 6:02 AM Drop his sister off for school 
• 6:20 AM Get dressed
• 7:00 AM Eat breakfast
• 7:30 AM School 🏫 

You can also create routines like this for your kiddos in the 

 Saturday, Sunday, no school sleep 💤 in 

Wake up whenever

Make your Bed 🛌 

Brush your teeth 🪥 

Get dressed 🩳 

schedules reinforce your family routines by making them fun 

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Bullying Prevention

 

Please read Bullying Prevention We’re all different. All unique. Yet, feeling different among peers can have a lasting effect. Words like weird, odd, strange used in a hurtful or derogatory way aren’t easily forgotten, and when combined with being excluded from lunchroom tables and social gatherings on the playground, it can have a greater devastating impact. What’s more, these words and actions can escalate to other forms of emotional or physical bullying. behavior that hurts, harms, or humiliates. Whether physically or emotionally, it can happen while at school, in the community, or online. Those bullying often have more social or physical “power,” while those targeted have difficulty stopping the behavior. The behavior is often done with intent and typically repeated.

As parents, one of the most important things we will ever do is model and teach compassion. When we model this, along with kindness and empathy, we promote understanding and acceptance of others. It’s up to us to teach our children about their peers with autism, Down syndrome and other disabilities, and how we are all deserving of inclusion, acceptance and each other’s respect.

It’s okay to feel different, but it’s not okay to treat – or be treated – differently. It’s up to us to empower our children to know and understand the difference while teaching the importance of self-love and embracing what makes us unique. Please feel free to share and check out my website for our journey click on the link https://linktr.ee/livebeyondautism

kids to go back to school

 Are you getting ready for your kids to go back to school?  Today we’re sharing our favorite first day of school tradition.It starts with these first days of school kids Picture, and an after-school treat to welcome them home from their first day of school.

Publix, for example, is running its Back to School promotions went this week and picked up a pack of  Pop-Tarts for my daughter Pringles and Quaker Bars Value Packs 

I stocked up on Quaker Chocolate Chip Bars Value Packs while they were buy 1 get 1 free. The kids love these!

After the first day of school

My favorite part of the school day is hearing all about it when they get home.  We always have to get Together in our family room on the first day, for the all the excitement.

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Signs of Autism

 

Autism is a neurodevelopmental disorder characterized by:

• social impairments
• cognitive impairments
• communication difficulties
• repetitive behaviors

Because Autism is a spectrum disorder, it can range from very mild to very severe and occur in all ethnic, socioeconomic and age groups. Males are four times more likely to have autism than females. Some children with autism appear normal before age 1 or 2 and then suddenly “regress” and lose language or social skills they had previously gained. This is called the regressive type of autism.

Early Signs:

A person with ASD might:

• Not respond to their name (the child may appear deaf)
• Not point at objects or things of interest, or demonstrate interest
• Not play “pretend” games
• Avoid eye contact
• Want to be alone
• Have difficulty understanding, or showing understanding, or other people’s feelings or their own
• Have no speech or delayed speech
• Repeat words or phrases over and over (echolalia)
• Give unrelated answers to questions
• Get upset by minor changes
• Have obsessive interests
• Flap their hands, rock their body, or spin in circles
• Have unusual reactions (over or under-sensitivity) to the way things sound, smell, taste, look, or feel
• Have low to no social skills
• Avoid or resist physical contact
• Demonstrate little safety or danger awareness

• People with autism may also:

  • Have unusual interests and behaviors
  • Have extreme anxiety and phobias, as well as unusual phobias
  • Line up toys or other objects
  • Play with toys the same way every time
  • Like parts of objects (e.g., wheels)
  • Become upset by minor changes
  • Have obsessive interests

  Other Symptoms:

• Hyperactivity (very active)
• Impulsivity (acting without thinking)
• Short attention span
• Aggression
• Causing self injury
• Meltdowns
• Unusual eating and sleeping habits
• Unusual mood or emotional reactions
• Lack of fear or more fear than expected
• Have unusual sleeping habits

• Developmental Screening

  Developmental screening is a short test to tell if children are learning basic skills when they should, or if they might have delays. During developmental screening the doctor might ask the parent some questions or talk and play with the child during an exam to see how she learns, speaks, behaves, and moves. A delay in any of these areas could be a sign of a problem.

  All children should be screened for developmental delays and disabilities during regular well-child doctor visits at:

• 9 months
• 18 months
• 24 or 30 months

• Additional screening might be needed if a child is at high risk for developmental delays due to preterm birth, low birth weight, having a sibling with ASD or if behaviors associated with ASDs are present.

  If your child’s doctor does not routinely check your child with this type of developmental screening test, ask that it be done.  If the doctor sees any signs of a problem, a comprehensive diagnostic evaluation is needed.

  Comprehensive Diagnostic Evaluation

  The second step of diagnosis is a comprehensive evaluation. This thorough review may include looking at the child’s behavior and development and interviewing the parents. It may also include a hearing and vision screening, genetic testing, neurological testing, and other medical testing.

  In some cases, the primary care doctor might choose to refer the child and family to a specialist for further assessment and diagnosis. Specialists who can do this type of evaluation include:

  • Developmental Pediatricians (doctors who have special training in child development and children with special needs)
  • Child Neurologists (doctors who work on the brain, spine, and nerves)
  • Child Psychologists or Psychiatrists (doctors who know about the human mind)

9 Early Signs of Autism (That I Missed)

 

EARLY SIGNS OF AUTISM 

that I missed

1. Gets upset around groups of people

2. Narrow areas of interest

3. Making up words

4. Over the top reaction to smells

5. Frequent ear infections

6. Everything had to go his way.

7.Took a long time to wean from the bottle

8. Didn't like messy play

9. Didn't show the

"classic"signs

Is Brad Happy?

               When my child has a meltdown, 

As a mother I wonder sometimes if Brad is happy.My son Brad with autism he cry for many reasons and I'm trying to figure out why crying can be tricky. Today’s blog is all about the reasons why kids might be crying and how i can help turn his behavior around. As a mother, I’ve seen in many situations with kids crying. How can I help my son.  It’s normal to ask, “why is my child with autism crying so much?”

When my son has a meltdown, I often want to stop the tears because it hurts my heart ♥️  that my child is struggling. Or I'm running low on patience and just want peace and quiet.

Many times, we’re coping with the fifth or sixth meltdown over simple things like the tag in his shirt being too itchy, are his sister talking too loudly, or a change in plans.

Autistic children aren’t crying, wailing, or flailing to get at us somehow. They’re crying because it’s what their bodies need to do in that moment to release tension and emotion from feeling overwhelmed with emotions or sensory stimulations.

Their brains are wired differently and so it’s how they interact with the world. That’s something I have to come to terms with as parents so I can support Brad in the best way.

So how can i effectively support my son  through these often loud and thrashing meltdowns?

Expressing his emotions in a healthy way — whether through tears, wailing, playing, even if these emotions feel overwhelming in their magnitude.

Many times, i try to talk to brad down from his panic, but it’s often a waste of breath when he is in the throes of a meltdown.

So what can i do is let him know that he is  safe and loved.i do this by staying as near to him too comfort Brad.

My son can’t control his meltdowns, so maybe I shouldn’t punished him.

Instead, i should allowed him space and freedom to cry loudly. as a parent am letting him know am his number one supported.

Meltdowns for any child can get noisy, but they tend to go to a whole other level of loud when it’s an autistic child.

These outbursts can feel embarrassing to parents when we’re in public and everyone is staring at us.We feel the judgment from some saying, “I’d never let my kid act like that.”

Or worse, we feel like our deepest fears are validated: People think we’re failing at this whole parenting thing.

My son responds really well to is it ok mom/ dad daily (his favorite word ) but we try not to use it's ok for every-time.

These coping strategies will help him calm down —is it ok mom/ dad   perhaps before a meltdown.

Empathy is at the heart of all of these steps to dealing with an autistic meltdown.

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